I saw a mom blogger on Instagram kinda questioning are some people rude or are they truly introverts. She provided a situation where she was at an event and met a fellow mom blogger who was kinda cold upon her greeting. How she described the interaction it was just someone being rude to me. I’m introvert have known way before I knew there was a word and definition for my feelings. The definitions of introvert all suggest characteristics of being reserved and tend to focus on oneself. Also introversion is the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one’s own mental life that definition is from Merriam Websters. So nothing about being an introvert is to be rude or mean but just preferring to spend time alone.
I want to share my feelings as an introvert so for people who don’t understand or get it hopefully this will help. Going out to something that isn’t required and interacting with people can be draining. For me it doesn’t matter if it’s a group of people I know or if it’s people I don’t know I have to motivate myself self to go. A lot of times I will go to into hibernation prior to going to an event to build up my energy levels. Going out with family or to a family event is easier because I don’t feel like I have to be on and coming up with conversation. However it can still be a drain I have left family events with horrible headaches because of all the talking and laughing. When I’m interacting with people I don’t know and want to be social I try to find something we have in common as an icebreaker then go from there. I have held conversations with people I didn’t know at first but after finding that common subject were able to interact and it was a pleasant experience. I do think two introverts aren’t going to get very far initially because neither probably wants to exert the energy needed to get past hello. I’m only speaking from my experience I really hate being an introvert sometimes because I know I have missed out on great experiences but the fear and anxiety overwhelm me so I just stay at home. I will say that being an introvert doesn’t allow you to be a mean and cold to other people. Here are a few tips that I use to help me.
Arrive early you can have the host introduce you to a few people see who you click with and use that person to continue to get to know other people.
If you can take someone with you. If the party or event allows for plus one take someone especially someone who is an extrovert to help pull you out of your shell.
Leave if you are feeling overwhelmed it’s okay, rather than sit in the corner alone and have people wonder about you.
If you are an introvert tell me what tips you use when going out to not be so awkward? And if you aren’t an introvert what have your experiences been like dealing with introverts?
When I asked for your help, you answered my prayer and gave me courage. Psalms 138: 3 CEV
I love Insecure, I love seeing black people just be black on television. With that said I didn’t love season three. There seem to be a lot of setup for the up coming season especially in the finale. I was glad to see the season end with Issa being content in her new singleness. I think I was used to something extreme happening in every episode the two previous seasons (who will ever forget Lawrence smashing Tasha’s cakes in the season one finale) to have a season with less OMG made this season seem to drag during some episodes. I had to remember though that life isn’t always circus and it shouldn’t be. Just a brief rundown of my thoughts on the characters this season.
Daniel wasn’t what I thought he would be. I do believe we will see him again but I hope the next time we do it is with much more confidence. Issa really did need to quit We Gotcha Yall because her heart really wasn’t it anymore. Also when you are coming up with ideas and being shut down that make you feel as though you opinion isn’t valued. I think that is why she fell so hard for Nathan because he made her feel as though her ideas were great and important. Now Nathan did zero to help Issa with her idea he offered great lip service to motivate her. But why you gotta ghost my girl Nathan then show up like nothing ever happened??? Molly normally has ish together when it comes to work but this season she was just alienating her peers right and left with no remorse. I do hope that Molly doesn’t further mess up the possible dating experience with Andrew. I thought I wouldn’t miss the Lawrence character and didn’t realize how much I missed him until he came back. I think we need the male perspective in Lawrence to balance Issa and Molly’s antics. While I do love the girls friendships and seeing the growth in that relationship Lawrence’s character has allowed us to see how men handle break-ups and starting over. Also we get to see male friendships some too through Lawrence.
I will be back for season four to see what the ladies and gent are getting into, because even though this season lagged at times it still gave some great commentary on female friendships, ghosting and moving up or out at work. On a side note even the show within the show wasn’t as good or compelling as previous seasons. How did you enjoy this season of Insecure, will you be returning for season 4 if not why?
I’m not super girly when it comes to my nails but I do like for them to be polished most of the time. Summer is all about bright colors and oblige but I truly love fall and winter nail colors. I love black and navy nails they just look so edgy and fun to me. I also love deep wine and greens they just scream winter to me. But a nice red will forever hold a special during the Christmas season for me. I have linked below some fabulous dark nail polishes for fall and winter.
L’Oreal Paris Colour Riche Nail, Haute Couture Red– this color is more of a wine colored red than bright red. L’oreal polish does stay on pretty good I can get at least two to three days without any chipping. Also this is a drug store nail polish so the price is affordable under 5 dollars.
L’Oreal Paris Colour Riche Nail, Breaking Curfew– the color look for this one is purplish navy almost like a night sky. This is similar chemistry to the previous polish so once again I can get few days before this starts to chip. The price point is also below 5 dollars.
Essie After School Boy Blazer– if you are looking for a true navy this is the polish for you. This polish does require a retouch after a day or two but will be chipped off without a retouch. I think Essie is considered a salon brand and the price reflects it. You can occasionally find the Essie polishes on sale but original price is 8.99
Opi Black Oynx– is black black but very beautiful if you like black nails. I tell people if you don’t want to do all your nails black do it as an accent nail. Either way this is black that you want in your nail collection. The price is also around 8.99 and can be found on sale.
Hope you find a new color that you will try this fall.
Last month the great Aretha Louise Franklin passed away. Every since then I have been down a YouTube rabbit hole of her performances and interviews. In doing that I also decided I wanted to read about her life first her telling her own story in the autobiography Aretha: From These Rootsand then book that is said to be the definitive Aretha Franklin biography written by David Ritz Respect: The Life of Aretha Franklin.
In her autobiography Aretha basically just took the reader on ride through her career touching on a few incidents with other artist but always making her self out to be the victim. She touched on a few of her personal relationships but all but skimped over her marriage to Ted White and made her marriage to Glenn Thurman sound like a fairy tale. Aretha was very upset about the stories that had been told about her mother abandoning the family and wanted set the record straight. She painted a picture of childhood bliss going between both parents until her months death. I don’t doubt that she visited her mother but having mother leave and suddenly die as child is what Aretha stated “that it was pain she could not describe and wouldn’t even try”. Later in the book when speaking about Natalie Cole she states that hearing Natalie discuss her fathers death made it easier later for her to talk about her father. I believe Aretha was of the black old school adage that what happens at home stays and family business isn’t to be discussed with others. I don’t fault Aretha for being scared to truly open about her loses, but she would have probably benefited from therapy.
Mr. Ritz was able to take a deeper dive into Aretha’s life good and bad. He interviewed her sibling, other family members and people who have worked with Aretha professionally. Ruth Bowen is probably the closest non-family member in the book and her takes on Ms Aretha were interesting. One topic that is discussed through out both books are Aretha’s stage shows. Aretha speaks on them as if they are just beautiful and well put together because she does them. While in Mr. Ritz books everyone says that her shows border on tacky and her song selections most of the times are a miss. Another thing that is touched towards the end of Respect is Aretha’s later song selections. Many felt they were beneath her but also a lot of people were depending Aretha financially. When you are the person responsible for taking care of your family and your money management are lacking you are going to have to keep working well past the time you probably should. So I think based off the books and also clips I have seen I do believe Aretha truly enjoyed performing and making music but it was also a necessary for her too. The stories told my her family and other artist who worked with Aretha describe how talented she was on the piano. One time her arm was broken and she was able to come into the studio and play beautifully. We didn’t see much of her playing the piano in the 80’s and 90’s but she went back to that in her later concerts.
The last thing I want to touch on is Ms. Aretha’s mystery man. Her autobiography she touches on a mystery man she was interested in interwoven between her long term relationship and marriage. Ms. Bowen had me crying laughing talking about the matter. Everyone in Mr. Ritz’s book says that there was no mystery man and Aretha liked to make up stories because she desired to be loved and wanted. I say if you don’t know much about Ms. Franklin and want to know more then definitely give these books a read. I don’t think Aretha is a great autobiography/memoir but it is a great companion to Respect. Neither book is a hard read I finished both books in a week and half. There is a lot I have left out this review because I feel people should read the books and shape their own opinion of the phenomenal Aretha Louise Franklin.
Have read either of these books if so what was your opinion? Would you recommend them?
Welcome to fall! Now is the time to make sure we have what is needed to get our natural hair through the cooler weather.
A good deep conditioner is always needed no matter the weather but two I’m going to are great for the fall and winter. TGIN Honey Miracle Mask and Millie Organics Hydrating Condition are wonderful. TGIN gives that protein protection with a ton of moisturizing properties. Millie is great for deep moisture and is protein free. The cooler air along with the heat in our homes can be super drying but these two provide deep penetrating treatments to help keep your hair from getting dry.
I will admit I’m a little slack with wrapping my hair up in the summer because I use a satin pillow case all year. However in the winter I make sure to have my satin bonnet on to protect my hair. As I previously stated the heating system in our homes are very drying so even if you are sleeping on a satin pillow case you natural hair can still be exposed to the dry heat in the home. I really love my slap cap but if you search I’m sure you will find plenty of other companies making beautiful bonnets to sleep in.
Last but not least try to protective style. I know most people think of protective styling in the summer with braided styles but the winter is also a great time to do those braided do’s also. If you don’t want to do braids try a wig or even head wraps and turbans are a great alternative. I have purchased a few head wraps that are satin lined but if you are using a traditional head wrap make sure to use some sort of stocking cap or satin scarf under neath your head wrap to protect your strands.
These a just a few things that help your natural hair continue to flourish during the colder months. Is there anything special that you do for your natural during the colder months if so share them with me!
I have met my reading goal for this year already so now I’m taking a little more time with books and will be getting into a little more non-fiction to finish out the year hopefully. Some of the books have yet to be released so they may actually carryover into next year depending on if I’m able to get my hands on them. What are some books you looking forward to diving into during the cool/colder months?
The Talented Ribkins – I saw a review this book last year on YouTube and it has been on my TBR every since. I was browsing my local library and saw they had it so I will be picking that up soon.
My Sister, The Serial Killer -this book isn’t set for release until November but I am excited to read this one. The cover looks amazing and premise is interesting to me. –
Praise Song for Butterflies– after doing some research this a re release for Bernice L. Mcfadden. I’m slowly making my way through her works but I this is one I want to read sooner rather than later.
Whiskey and Ribbons– I have seen wonderful reviews for this book. I started reading it this summer but they kept talking about snow. I decided to put this down until it gets cold so I can fully appreciate the cold weather and coziness I think I’m supposed to feel reading this book.
Becoming– Michelle Obama’s memoir the cover is beautiful and that is enough for me. It will also be released in November.
The Warmth of Other Suns– my sister told me about this book last year. I ordered it early this year but once I saw the size I knew a book like that it could be overwhelming for me to read. I’m waiting on the audio copy from library but I may just end up purchasing the audio because I don’t want to continue to put this one off.
All the Pieces Matter: Inside Story of the Wire– I have a confession I have never finished the Wire series. However I love reading behind the scenes or how events are put together. I want to really to read this one because the Wire is a piece of pop culture.
This definitely isn’t a complete list of what I will be picking up but just some books I’m excited to read the latter part of 2018.
Summer is winding down I was able to accomplish four items off of my summer bucket list. I can truly say I had a great summer. I took a few vacations got to put my feet in the sand. I also read some great books and watched some wonderful movies. The biggest thing my son started his freshman year of college!
Over the next few weeks I will be sharing some seasonal blogs about books and beauty the things I love I hope you are enjoying the content.